Having experienced heartbreak recently, I thought I might use this as an opportunity to write a post about appreciating others. One thing I often tell people to do is practice experiencing as if for the last time from time to time. And this especially includes those you love and care about. A wonderful way to gain greater appreciation for someone you are currently spending time with involves imagining this will be the very last time that you will see this person in a very long time. When you do this you might find yourself: (1) less eager to share and more eager to listen,  (2) seeking to capture every subtle facial expression, eye movement, and gesture, (3) smiling in love and amazement and appreciation, and (4) expressing some heart-to-heart something you’ve never told the person but always wanted to. What a wonderful experience for you. But, think about how wonderful the experience will be for the other person when you focus your full and complete love and attention on him or her and express your deepest thoughts and feelings. And every action has a reaction so don’t be surprised if you find that same love and appreciation beaming right back at you.

If you do this, you will create special, quality, loving moments all along the way. Then if something should happen where those you love and care about are no longer in your life, for whatever reason, you will at least be comforted in knowing that you spent many special, quality, loving moments together while you had the chance.

Now, sometimes others no longer being in our day-to-day lives are not necessarily related to dismal circumstances such as those involving death but due to relocations, job transfers, or something like that. Whenever this happens, I always encourage people to practice experiencing these people as if for the last time from time to time even then.

For example, you might imagine this will be the very last conversation you will have with the person in a very long time via the phone, video chat, social media, or other long distance methods. Notice how this changes you and how this changes the dynamics between the two of you. You might also use the “practice experiencing as if the last time” technique when visiting the person or when the person visits you.

All of these are wonderful ways in which to gain greater appreciation for others in our lives and to create special, quality, loving moments all along the way. So do this for yourself, and others, if you can. It can add such warmth, color, and vibrance to your life if you do this from time to time.

This and other happiness and self-improvement related tips are provided throughout my self-help oriented books: https://brighterdayslifecoaching.com/published-books-and-life-coaching-services/ 

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