Many people listen to the advice of others (and sometimes even ask for it) and make decisions and take actions accordingly. But if you blindly take the advice of others, whose life are you living? Certainly not yours!

So, never take advice. Only take what others offer under advisement. Because it’s your life. And it’s always your decision. And you’ll be the one who has to deal with any associated consequences. And even good advice can be bad and bad advice good. “How can this be?” you might ask. Well, it all comes down to values. The set of values which are important to some people are not as important to others. And although people may never say, think about, or even realize it, values are what they use to judge and offer opinions and advice. So, it is very subjective in nature because values can vary widely from one person to the next. Thus, someone else’s good advice might be horrible for you (and vice versa)! 

For example, if someone strongly values sex in a relationship situation and you ask for advice because you’re not getting much sex from your partner, then the person being asked might share all kinds of hypothetical reasons why your partner is not putting out – none of which would be very favorable or helpful – and advise you to end the relationship and find someone else. But the first question I would ask in such a situation is how much you value sex. That is, on a scale of 1 to 3 (where “3” is of critical importance and “1” of not much importance), how would you rate sex? If you rate sex as a “1” (or perhaps even a “0.5”), then clearly you should not be asking for or taking ANY relationship advice from others related to sex (aside from general knowledge and awareness purposes). And if you thought about it more, you might find there are many other things in relationships that you highly value which your partner excels at. Things which matter much more to you than, well, sex. But, um, go ahead and take Aunt Martha’s advice now. She has lots of experience in these kinds of things, you know.

All joking aside advice or opinions, for that matter, might be potential considerations but should be NOTHING more. This is why you should NEVER listen to or take advice from others. That is, unless you do this first: (1) objectively reflect on and determine whether anything expressed warrants being factored in as potential considerations (or not), and (2) based on what YOU value, weigh each of the considerations you have (including the ones you came up with), and decide and take actions accordingly. So, in summary, never take advice. Only take what others offer under advisement. Period. Now, in those rare situations where you have no idea of what to do, it might be okay to take someone else’s advice. But first reflect on it and consider whether the advice seems reasonable and practical and whether it might work for you or not before moving forward.

If you operate in the above fashion you will live a happy, peaceful, authentic life – your own and nobody else’s. And you will make wise decisions EVERY TIME and take actions which are ALWAYS right for you and others in your life. What a wonderful life you will create and share if you live in this fashion. So, do this for yourself (and others) if you can.

This and other happiness and self-improvement related tips are provided throughout my self-help oriented books: https://brighterdayslifecoaching.com/published-books-and-life-coaching-services/ 

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